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A Few Words and Why They Can Make a World of Difference

By Alethea MacPhail

Sorry.

Nostalgia.

Cake.

Words for sure, and so much more. Also, you may be thinking that they are all completely unrelated. And at first glance you’d be right. But if one looks deeper, it’s easy to see how they’re all connected.

We all have things to be sorry for in our lives. From saying that one thing we shouldn’t have said and breaking up a group of friends, to losing someone’s favourite mug and seeing the true hurt in their face. Yes, some instances are more serious than others, but they all have repercussions and these can’t be ignored. I speak from experience here when I say the automatic response is to hide from it all and stick your head in the ground, and hope it all blows over.  I’ll refer to some words of wisdom here:

“When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t” – Louis C.K.

I can also assure you all that this never happens. It takes a lot of courage to apologise for things, especially things that we don’t realise we’re doing or saying. 

Now, on to nostalgia. Nostalgia for most of us means memories of our Gran making us dinner, or our first holiday. For me, it means a time when I didn’t have to be terrified of opening my emails, or checking my bank account. When I could say “I love you” to someone, and it would be enough. It wouldn’t be followed by an awkward silence and “Er, thanks, you too” or questions like “But what are we?” or “Is this just a benefits thing or an actual Facebook ready relationship?” Put simply, nostalgia for me is a time when words meant what they meant on the surface and not a million other things I should just instinctively know.

Cake I feel links all these things together. We turn to cake for comfort, and with good reason. It is for most a bonding experience with family and friends, and a reminder of simpler times. Cake can be used to maybe rebuild the bridge we think we’ve long since burned, or to re-connect with a family member of person we haven’t seen in too long.

Here at Populus, our events allow new connections to be made and old connections to be re-forged. And even better, most will involve CAKE! J That’s a reason right there to come along, if nothing else.

And I feel this would be wrong if I didn’t end with a quote, so:

There are two things I judge harshly on. The inability to admit when one is wrong, and the lack of courage to say sorry. That tells me all I need to know. Because we are all wrong at some point. But not all of us are sorry.” -- Anonymous

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